July 11th, 2013
When attending a funeral or visitation, it is not unusual to hear comments whispered around the body such as, “She looks really good,” or “He appears so natural.” Often, a funeral home’s reputation is made or lost based on nothing more than how the body is presented. So who performs this all-important service?
Most funeral homes do not employ an individual whose only job is funeral cosmetology. The hair and make-up, as well as the clothes and overall presentation of the deceased, is most often put together by the same person who performs the embalming procedure, frequently the mortician or Funeral Director.
That is not to say that these men and women have not been extensively trained. On the contrary, funeral cosmetology is a skill that is often required as part of a mortuary science degree. However, recapturing the spark of life is more akin to art than science.
The Heart of a Poet
It takes a special kind of person to be a mortician. I once asked a friend of mine if it was difficult for him to prepare the bodies of those he knew well or was close to in life. He told me that the opposite was true. He viewed it as an opportunity to honor the memory of the person he once knew. Yes, he would feel grief at their passing, but it afforded him a private moment to say goodbye, a chance to ensure that they received the best care possible and it allowed him one more opportunity to show them the love and respect they so richly deserved.
His response always seemed poetic to me, rife with meaning and beauty. And yet I knew that I would struggle to successfully view the situation in that same light. He does a job I could not do, and does it with an outlook I could not maintain.
So next time you are impressed with the way a loved one is presented, make sure to let the Funeral Director know how much you appreciate his work. They perform their duties with honor and respect, and they deserve no less from us.
September 10th, 2011
Here at FSN Funeral Homes, we strive to find the best advise for the questions so commonly asked about funeral planning and the details that come along with it. Here is a list of the most frequent questions and their answers. If you have any questions, please feel free to ask.
FAQ : Funeral Planning
What do I need to know about funeral planning?
There are a few basics you should always keep in mind when planning a funeral.
- Be informed and ask questions.
- Go over all options available at several funeral homes, making sure the funeral home you chose is suitable for your personal needs and budget.
- Request an itemized price list.
- Make the arrangements for a personalized service to honor your loved one.
Who do I need to contact first when pre-planning a funeral?
- When pre-planning a funeral you can call the funeral home directly and work with the funeral director there, or you can contact an Estate Planning attorney.
How much does an average funeral cost?
- The average funeral in today’s time is somewhere between $6,000 – $8,000. This estimated price includes, all services provided by the funeral home, casket/urn, burial and cemetery arrangements.
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August 31st, 2011
Today, many families are not aware of their role in the funeral planning process. Once you have an idea of what you would like to take place at the service you are planning, you should sit down with a funeral director to go over the logistics.
Something you should know:
You are the one who determines the cost of the funeral services that will be held for you or your family members. The details of the services are guided and determined by your needs, and budget. But, not all funeral homes are created equal, they come in different sizes, styles and have different specialties. It is a wise idea to ‘shop’ around before deciding which funeral home to work with. Below is a checklist that will aid you in covering all the cost aspects associated with planning a funeral.
Funeral Home Comparison Checklist
Make copies of this checklist to compare the prices of services offered at funeral homes in your area.
Name of Funeral Home____________________________________________
Name of Crematory_______________________________________________
Name of Cemetery________________________________________________
Notes on Business Reputation_____________________________________
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May 18th, 2011
Planning a funeral during a time of grief can be a complicated and frustrating process. The family is left to make many decisions and arrangements for the services that will honor their loved one. Choosing a Funeral Home for the service to take place is the first step.
When choosing a Funeral Home there are several different factors to take into consideration, including:
- Funeral Costs
- Family and Religious Traditions
- Type of Funeral
Funeral Services are influenced by religious, cultural and family traditions along with costs and personal preferences. Every family has their own vision and expectation as to how to honor their loved one. These preferences will help to determine whether the funeral will be religious or secular, public or private, simple or elaborate, open or closed casket and whether the remains will be cremated or buried.
Funeral Directors can help make the process less complicated and more relaxing during this time of healing and closure.
What Does a Funeral Director Do?
- Provides transportation of the deceased to the funeral home from – the hospital, nursing home, hospice house, residence, etc
- Helps notify proper authorities, family and relatives
- Secures necessary permits and death certificates that your town or state requires
- Gathers information and preparing death certificate
- Prepares and submits obituary to local newspapers
- Works with Insurance agents, Social Security or Veteran’s Administrators
- Prepares the body for burial or cremation
- Assists the family with funeral arrangements and purchase of the casket/urn, sympathy flowers arrangements, burial vault and cemetery plot and other aspects of the funeral service
- Schedules the funeral service and the opening and closing of the grave with the cemetery personnel
- Coordinates all the details with clergy including readings and music
- Arranges police escort and transportation to the cemetery for the family prior to, during, and after the funeral
- Works with the family to create personal and creative elements in the ceremony to both honor and celebrate the your loved one’s life.
- Provides Grief assistance and counseling for the family
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